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ll praise Is due to Allah who says:
“And  among  His  signs  is  this,  that  He
created  for  yon  wives  from  among
yourselves,  that  you  may  find  repose  in
them,  and  He  has  put  between  you
affection and mercy”
[Surah
Ar-Rum:vetse
 21 ],
and  Peace  and  Blessing  be  upon  our  prophet  Muhammad
who  said:  "The  best of you  is  one  who  is  best  with  one's
household  (in  treatment)  and  I  am  best  of  you  to  my
household", reported by
At-Tirmidih
and others.
To proceed:
Today,  if we look at people's  lives  we  will be disappointed
and  feel  distressed  because  sins,  forbidden  actions  and
misdeeds  have  become  widespread.   Concepts  that  were
once  common  among  some  people  have  changed,  the  evil
has  become  the  good  and  the  good  has  become  the  evil.
Traditions and ethics have also changed.
Accordingly,  people become  influenced and fascinated by
the ideas of Western "civilization" and affected by dirty and
indecent   movies   which   look   at   betrayal   as   love,
disintegration  as  freedom  and  openness,  respect  for  the
husband   as   backwardness   and   complexity   and   the
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understanding between the husband and  wife as weakness.
As  a  result,  misfortunes  have  increased,  disasters  diffused
and Muslims have become tense and confused.
•   The wife does not fulfil the rights of her husband!
•   The husband ignores and oppresses his wife!
•   The children are disobedient to their parents !
•   The parents ignore their children's education!
These problems  are only  caused by Muslims'  disobedience
to Allah's rules.
In  order  to  help  in  the  construction  of  the  ideal  Muslim
home, I have prepared this paper
“How to win your wife's heart”
It is among the. series of the happy Muslim family, its aim is
to create a solid, sincere and understanding
Muslim family,
reigned  by  admiration,  respect,  love,  commitment,  mental
tranquillity and happiness.
Whose slogan is:
religion is sincerity.
Whose Goal is;
a right education for the children.
Whose  Reference  is:
the  Qur'an,  the  Sunnah  and  the
sayings of the worthy ancestors.
Whose Aspiration
is; that they will be called on the Day of
Judgement to:
Enter  Paradise,  you  and  your  wives,  in
happiness.  Trays  of gold  and  cups  will  be
passed round them, (there will be) therein all
that  the  one's  inner-selves  could  desire,  all
that the eyes could  delight in, and you  will
abide therein forever,
[Az-zukhruf:
 70-71],
Whose  Model  is:
the  Prophet  (SI),  his  companions,  die
followers  and those who follow his footsteps  with  sincerity
till the Day of Judgement.
Among other reasons that prompted me to prepare this paper
is  the  increase  in  the  number  of  divorce  eases  and  of
marriage  problems,  the  negligence  of each  partner's  rights
towards  the  other  and the  low  esteem  that  some husbands
show  towards  their  wives.  For  example,  some  men,  may
Allah guide them, do not fulfil their wives' rights and do not
care  about them.  They  raise their voices  for no  reason,  do
not  share  with  their  wives  the  good  and  had  things  and
prefer to spend the night with their friends and travel than to
look after their families and their wives.  Accordingly,  their
behaviour  leads  the  wives  to  live  in  a  state  of  anxiety,
distress  and  misery  and  destroy  their spirits.  So,  to  those
men I am addressing this paper.
Isay:
A woman is weak, affectionate, emotional and cannot bear a
man when raising his voice  and showing his muscles.  She
needs his care all the lime. She needs affection, compassion,
a smile and true love.  She needs safe direction and the right
advice,  and  she  needs  to  be  addressed  with  wisdom,
tenderness and the proper style because she is the mother of
the children.  She is the school that was once spoken of thus:

his letter is also addressed:
•   To  anyone  who  wants  to  live  a  peaceful,  happy,
meaningful and a pleasant life.
•   To  anyone  who  wants  to  lead  his  married  life  in  the
right path and to Paradise.
■    To  anyone  who  wants  to  make his  house  a  model  for
marital  happiness  and  a  school  to  raise  pious  and
righteous offspring.
•   To  anyone  who  wants  to  make  his  house  a  cultural
source for calling people to follow  the  commandments
of Allah and for enjoining good and forbidding evil.
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So, it is appropriate for us to improve out characters and our
behavior towards  our wives,  and  offer them  what Allah f§
has obliged us with trust and loyalty,  I ask Allah to grant us
all happiness in this world and in the Hereafter, and may the
Blessing  and  Peace of Allah be upon  our beloved  prophet
Muhamma

 Happiness is a feeling that resides in the heart. It is characterized by peace of mind, tranquility, a sense of wellbeing, and a relaxed disposition. It comes as a result of proper behavior, both inward and outward, and is inspired by strong faith. This is attested to by the Qur’ân and Sunnah. Happy marriages are fundamental to a stable family and for personal well being. This book is specifically written for men so that inshallah they can have successful marriages.